Can there be opportunities in love as well?
Well for me love is eternal, it is timeless. Where there is love there can be no space for opportunities.
So why do we sometimes feel we missed the chance with our one true love? Some time back I suffered a great deal due to the emotional trauma that followed this thought in my head.
“This one true love this is highly overrated, human heart has infinite resource of this infinite thing called love” these were the words of my counsellor whom I resorted to when I felt things were going a little over the board. Although I don’t actually agree here. If our heart has infinite capability to love then why finiting it in the boundaries of relationships. A thing like this should never cease to exist. But I understood what she meant here and so accepted it.
Depression would be a huge word to describe this but that was the time I used to question myself ‘WHY ME?’ and I would consider myself really lucky to have those people in my life who helped me bring myself back. All that time I used kept reminding myself to be strong that this too shall pass, that m not weak and that I can come out of this mess. The reason why I am writing this is that I see a lot of people around me suffering stoically -holding onto things which are killing them inside- it is absolutely okay to reach out to people for help.
If things were going downhill it’s okay to grieve , you have experienced loss but the belief that things are going to remain like this is a load of rubbish and a lot of hooey to digest.
“One either loves or waits for love or banishes love for good” there is a full range of choices and it’s your responsibility to choose judiciously.
Apart from all the people I would specially thank my counsellor- my mother for making me understand that our lives disconnect and reconnect. That life is an entwined series of connections and disconnections. That’s how it goes on.
I think it’s high time parents have more open discussions with their children and are more accepting and understanding of such trivial issues in their adolescent’s life which can have a huge impact on them otherwise specially on some very sensitive kids.